Enough?
Thursday, June 29, 2006
When do you say "enough is enough"? When someone continually lies to you? When that person has ripped your heart out more times than you can count? When they've hurt you so badly that you can barely get out of bed? When you've become the needy, obsessive kind of person that you hate? When they have made you do things that you could never imagine doing? What if you just can't quit him? What if you've tried and just can't? When is it just too much?
Maybe I need that change of scenery I told a few of you about. I've decided that if/when it's offered, I am going to take it.
11 comments:
WOW this is a huge step but I think if it leads to making it easier on you to deal with all of it...its necessary but we'll MISS you!!
ash,
very few relationships can stand the trip backwards. i mean it ended for a reason and you are obviously still bitter about your feelings... move forward and move away from him and how he makes you feel. moving away, to somewhere new, does not solve the pattern of behavior. it is not easy, but i know you can do this - stay away from the hurt and pain that is caused by this person.
Really, a person can only take so much, and the only way you know is when YOU can say enough is enough..its always easier said than done, but I think a fresh start could be exactly what you need. Only you can know that, that's for sure...anyways..hopefully i will talk to ya later...take care and try to have a good day
I know I am going to get e-tomatos thrown at me for this, but I dont keep contact with folks I used to date. I got burned once trying to remain "friends" with one of them, and now I feel like when we are over, you have to go for good. Maybe a change of scenery will help you. I got your back girl.
kassy- thanks. I don't want to get ahead of myself here, since nothing's been offered yet, but if it did happen, I would miss you guys too.
mgc- I am trying so hard.
kirsten- we'll talk later.
avin- I'm on the fence as to whether or not to keep in touch. It's so hard for me to move on, and I would be devistated if I saw an ex with someone new.
Ash:
Sorry you're hurting.
A bit of wisdom from the world of 12-steppers (I didn't do so good there because of my refusal to give up a certain combustable intoxicant, but I did learn a couple of things):
"No matter where you go... there you are."
Geographic cures don't usually work.
Dump whatever or whoever bums you out. But don't move because of it.
Best,
David
david- I wouldn't necessarily be moving to run away, but now I wouldn't be staying (and passing up a great opportunity) because of him.
Guys in Phoenix suck just as bad.
wd- shh...I wasn't going to tell anyone where I might be going until I know for sure.
and yes, there are shitty guys everywhere, but at least this particular one will be all the way across the country.
These people are called our dating anti-christ. They turn us into whimpy people that forget how to be strong and stand up for ourselves. Good for you for realizing it though. The best thing you can do is put as much distance and silence between you as possible.
Seeing an ex with someone else only means it didnt work out with you. The right one is out there.
When is enough, enough? I'd say the second time--I'll give anyone two chances to fuck things up. But as my friend says, people can't walk all over you unless you lay down in front of them.
Or you could go with, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame one me."
Or Bush's "fool me...fool me once...shame on...shame on...me. Fool me twice...uhhh, well, you can't fool me twice."
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